Responding to Bullies | A Crisis HelpSheet

There's lots of attention on responding to the targets of bullying ... not as much on responding to aggressors beyond zero-tolerance banishment or other forms of retribution that don't address the need to make things right, as much as possible, and prevent further aggression in the context of community rather than in exile.

This Crisis HelpSheet — Bullying | Aggressor — covers what to do when you believe, or have good faith knowledge, that a teenager has bullied someone.

Also, see the Crisis HelpSheet, Bullying | Target.

Rage | A New Crisis HelpSheet for Youth Workers

Rage | A New Crisis HelpSheet for Youth Workers

Kids don’t usually get in trouble for being angry, frustrated, or afraid. 

Kids get in trouble when they break people’s stuff.

They get in trouble for making public threats.


They get in trouble when they hurt people, animals, and themselves.

Kids get in trouble when they rage.

Rage is uncontrolled fury, expressed in lashing out, violence, destruction, or self-harm. 

A new one-page Crisis HelpSheet for Youth Workers can help you figure out what to do when a kid rages. It’s part of a collection from Jim Hancock + thetinycompanycalledme.com that includes free and low-cost Crisis HelpSheets on...

• Asking Good Questions
• Bullying
• Confidentiality
• Cutting + Self-Harm
• Hazing
• Rage
• Referral | Getting Professional Help
• Reporting Abuse + Neglect
• Sexual Abuse Victims
• Suicide + Homicide Threats
• Traumatic Events

….with more in the pipeline, coming soon.

Crisis HelpSheets for Youth Workers aren’t everything — they’re not, for example, legal or medical advice, or counseling manuals. What they are, is an answer to the question, "What do I say to the parent who's bringing her kid to talk with me this afternoon about bullying, self-harm, sexual abuse, suicide…."

Rage is the newest Crisis HelpSheet for Youth Workers. Drop by thetinycompanycalledme and pick up your copy — or send a youth worker friend who could use some help figuring out what to do when people are in a tough spot.

Thanks,

Jim Hancock

PS: Stay tuned for more Crisis HelpSheets in the months ahead.... 

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Free for One Day | 10 Things We Should Never Say to Kids | January 02, 2018

I'm giving away a some free stuff this week, because I can … and because my problem is not piracy, my problem is obscurity (h/t Cory Doctorow).

The Free stuff on January 02, 2018 is a copy of 10 Things We Should Never Say to Kids.

Here are the 10 Things We Should Never Say to Kids:

1. Do You Have Your Jacket-Homework-Gym-Bag-Back-Pack-Ticket-Keys?
2. What Were You Thinking!
3. Because I Said So.
4. You Are Such a Pretty Little Thing.
5. I’m Proud of You!
6. You Can Do Anything You Set Your Mind To.
7. Let Me Tell You What Happened Here.
8. That’s Not How You Do It!
9. Don’t Make Me Turn This Car Around.
10. I Give Up.

Are these the absolute worst things we can say to a child? Of course not. What qualifies these 10 things for my list is:

1st — kids hear these things all the time 
2nd — these things drive kids a little nuts, even if they don’t know it
Finally — these things sound plausible (+ kids don’t know better) 

This little book is about not saying those 10 things — and what to say instead

January 02, 2018, come on over and download your own copy of 10 Things We Should Never Say to Kids. 

January 03, the price reverts to $5.99.

Feel free to invite your neighbors, friends + other loved ones to grab a free copy. 

Shake things up this year … start a book club … shock your children…. Happy New Year.