Sunday, August 09, 2015

in the wind | tweets from the space ending 08.08.15

Losing their cool? | life after middle school

Gray Matters | New medical study finds childhood poverty negatively affects brain development

passages | 92024 - 98155 (give or take)

Tuesday, August 04, 2015

passages | 92024 - 98155 (give or take) UPDATE

If you were thinking about coming to visit Susan and/or me in San Diego, think instead of what that visit might be like in Seattle - because that's where we'll be... tomorrow (assuming nothing weirder happens than us moving from San Diego to Seattle).

[UPDATE: We've found a lovely place to live in Mountlake Terrace, Washington - a touch more than ten miles north of Seattle proper (that's 98043 for those keeping score at home). It's worlds away from our little southern California beach town - there are big trees and blackberry brambles out the back door, and it's remarkably quiet. Second night in town we saw Kate in Shakespeare's As You Like It in the Seattle Shakespeare Company outdoor summer series; fourth night, we heard her sing a hilarious and delightful new song in the 17th annual New Voices concert at Seattle Repertory Theater - so, off to an entertaining start! Just a bit more unpacking and settling (thanks for helping with the move-in Hamers + Jaegers!) and we'll be fully operational. 

On this first day of school for many families we love, I suppose we're feeling the end of summer too - sad to have left our good life and lovely friends in California... and excited for all that's ahead.]

Leaving Colorado in 2000, we expected to land in the Seattle area but found ourselves happily rerouted for 15 wonderful years at the beach. Now, in the ebb and flow of all things, we’ve decided to complete the journey. We sold our little beach home at blinding speed, and we’re on our way.
In terms of work, other than physical location, nothing changes - the tiny company called me is still open for business, just farther north.
This move brings us back together with our daughter, the amazing Kate Jaeger and her wonder-spouse Eli, so we're majorly stoked about that. This reunion mitigates some of the melancholy we feel in leaving dear friends and neighbors in our remarkable San Diego community (we never expected that sort of closeness - what a crazy, beautiful grace... Thank you.)
So, on we go! More news when there is more...

Wednesday, July 15, 2015

in the wind | tweets from the space ending 07.14.15

sexting | L.A. Unified opts for prevention over punishment

good news | Kentucky churches integrate Common Core standards in Vacation Bible School

ending racism for good | "Try not! Do. Or do not. There is no try."

You know they kill Nemo's mom, right? | Films you should watch + talk about WITH your child

teenage sexual predators | important new study on adolescents who perpetrate sexual violence

Not what the preacher said | 82% of 13-17 year-olds in Ypulse study say they are virgins
gamer survey | boys want better female game protagonists

Sunday, July 05, 2015

In the wind | tweets from the space ending 07.05.15

Common Sense Media's running list of outstanding movies for children, tweens, and teens  

Brilliant. Neil Gaiman reveals the easiest path to becoming a writer h/t Publication Life 


Summer reading for middle schoolers  h/t 

first person | a plantation tour guide + the questions she got about slavery  

inside out | a graphic artist explores the overlap of 25 emotions  

Monday, June 15, 2015

not trying to pick a fight | 10 Things We Should Never Say to Kids

People get mad - not everyone, but more than I would've thought - when they see some of the things I'm convinced we should never say to kids. It's as if I were insulting their mothers... as if I were saying something was wrong with the way they were raised. 

Um, yes, I see their point. That is what I'm saying: I'm saying more than half a lifetime of trying to help teenagers and adults finish the work their parents started but couldn't complete has convinced me we'd be better off saying nothing if all we can come up with is stuff like:

  • Do You Have Your Jacket-Homework-Gym-Bag-Back-Pack-Keys? — because one day we won't be there
  • What Were You Thinking! — because (at least if it has an exclamation point on it) that's almost never an honest question
  • Because I Said So — because kids soon figure out that's hardly ever the real reason
  • You Are Such a Pretty Little Thing — because it's a time bomb
  • I’m Proud of You! — another sort of time bomb
  • You Can Do Anything You Set Your Mind To — because it's a set-up
  • Let Me Tell You What Happened Here — because children don't need us to do their thinking for them
  • That’s Not How You Do It! — because what it that is how a child does it; and it gets done and the world doesn't end
  • Don’t Make Me Turn This Car Around — because, “If you’re going to bluff, you have to be clear about what kind of game you’re playing.” [h/t Ehud Kalai, Kellogg School of Management at Northwestern University]
  • I Give Up — because no child ever needed to hear that from a parent
But of course we can come up with better things to say, and that's what Ten Things We Should Never Say to Kids is really about. So, go ahead... help yourself. 

in the wind | tweets from the space ending 06.14.15

High School moves start to 10am, 19% more students achieve national exam targets

we know we can do it since it's already been done

Ridiculously cheap the week before Father's Day | Ten Things We Should Never Say to Kids

what we know | what we think we know | what we are learning about millennials among us

Monday, June 01, 2015

in the wind | tweets from the space ending 05.31.15

Here's some of what the Boy Scouts say they're learning about Millennial parents - anything ring true?

jim hancock: take them seriously | schoolboys threaten first

Study finds 82% of 12-19-year-old sample say they don't care about others' sexual orientation

her own words | 16-year-old Elise Jamison says, "This Is What Teen Depression Looks Like"

abused emojis | some things are hard to spell out

leisure time survey | 12-19-yr-olds say YouTube > TV > Games - sports is way down the list

jim hancock: You know... Just like it says in the Bible

Saturday, May 30, 2015

You know... | Just like it says in the Bible

William Barclay said the legal experts: “…laid upon men the thousand and one burdens of the ceremonial law; but they did not keep them themselves, because they were experts in evasion.” They wrote up rules for just about everything.

The limit of a Sabbath day's journey was about half a mile from a person’s home. But if you tied a rope across the end of your street, the experts said the end of the street became your residence and you could go half a mile beyond that. And if on Friday afternoon you left enough food for two meals somewhere — anywhere — that point technically became your residence and you could go half a mile beyond that! You know, just like it says in the Bible.

One of the works forbidden on the Sabbath was tying knots in ropes and cords. But a woman was permitted to tie the knot in her girdle. So, by the transitive law of girdles, if you needed to draw a bucket of water from the well on the Sabbath, you could tie a girdle to the bucket, and then tie a rope to the girdle, and you were golden! You know, just like in the Bible.

The Sabbath code said: "...he who carries anything, whether it be in his right hand, or in his left hand, or in his bosom, or on his shoulder is guilty; but he who carries anything on the back of his hand, with his foot, or with his mouth, or with his elbow, or with his ear, or with his hair, or with his money bag turned upside down, or between his money bag and his shirt, or in the fold of his shirt or in his shoe, or in his sandal is guiltless, because he does not carry it in the usual way of carrying it out."

Healing sick people, however, was forbidden — no exceptions. You know, just like in the Bible.

[For another take on Just Like it Says in the Bible, hear these words coming from the mouth of the Post-Ironic Millennial]

[h/t William Barclay, THE DAILY STUDY BIBLE SERIES REVISED EDITION: THE GOSPEL OF LUKE (Philadelphia, Westminster Press, 1975) Luke 11:45-54]

[Image: William Blake, Moses Receiving the Law [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons]

Tuesday, May 26, 2015

abused emojis | some things are hard to spell out

Do children and teenagers (anyone of any age who is for any reason vulnerable, really) know how to get your attention when they need it?